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This gave me hope that maybe girls were secretly pining for me in high school, but then I remembered what I was like in high school

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A few years after I graduated from high school, where I was miserably unhappy, and believed myself to be a total outcast, who had to move 1000 miles away to even talk to a girl, which I did when I got out there. I went back to be with my family on some holiday or another, and some of my friends were having a party, and they had a band, and they were playing in the basement of my friend’s house, and it was a blast. People who I wasn’t particularly friendly with in high school or who I hadn’t even met because they were people my friends knew from community college were there and just being cool and friendly, and we were drinking beer in a not particularly rowdy way, but everyone was all loosened up. And we were sweaty from dancing because this was the punk rock era and these guys were a pop punk band, as we would call them now. So I walk upstairs to the kitchen to get a beer out of the refrigerator and there’s this really pretty girl there. And she’s looking at me and I say hi. And she tells me she was in 10th grade when I was a senior, and then I kind of remembered her. And I remembered that she was cute then, and she was even cuter a few years later in the kitchen at the party. She told me she had a terrible crush on me back then. I said not only did I not have any idea, it would not have even entered my head that that was possible. She was surprised by that. Her mental image of me and my own interior picture of myself had absolutely nothing to do with each other. Completely different planets. I said if you had given me the tiniest hint, well, the magic might have happened! And we both laughed. But, in reality, it wouldn’t have mattered, it would’ve taken more than a hint to get through a thick layer of self loathing. I would’ve simply discounted even overt signals. The mental construct would’ve been more compelling than even facts on the ground. Adolescent life can be tough. There were some cool things about it but I don’t miss it!

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