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Ouch. Grim. Sympathy.

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Sometimes it feels like a thousand years ago, honestly!

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Beautifully told, my dear. I'm sure that the friends and relatives of all transitioning people experience their own small measure of personal grieving even if they aren't upset by the transition. I fully support my trans son without exception, but I would be lying if I said there wasn't a part of me that mourns the loss of the what I guess I assumed his life would be as he moved through it, but that's not his problem and it never will be. I do know that much. 🤗 Hugs

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Thank you! Yes, while I was supportive, it really did feel like mourning at the time.

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You found yourself in an unexpected and emotionally fraught situation, and it sounds as though you handled it with as much grace and aplomb as you could, given the rawness and newness of it. You're human too, and it just takes us silly primates a while to come around to anything new and unfamiliar. Thank you for sharing that vulnerable part of your struggle with us all. Take care 🤗

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The Meaning of Wife...

I'm all about bending rules and being free, but my major takeaway from this is how much I've taken gender roles for granted and how scary it is to float in a meaningless, subjective void. Sorry if that's thought crime. Thank you for writing. This was well done.

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I think I know what you mean about it being scary to float in that meaningless, subjective void. No thought crimes detected, at least from where I sit!

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Fucking madness. But the arent these experiences great in the long run... because now they are stories :)

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